Battle of the Wills

I just want to start by saying to my stepmother- I admire you more and more everyday. Being a stepmom has been such a hard transition for me. I think because her "incubator " is such a unfit mother. And the fact that I nurture and care for this child while her "incubator" lives off of the state. I believe her "incubator" is a product of her environment- I have met her mother ( trust me ). This woman cannot even read or write past a 3rd grade level. Do I feel sorry for her? humm no. Do I loathe her.. humm no, surprisingly I don't. She has given me a gift. Although she doesn't know it.Enough of that subject.. lets move on to THE BATTLE OF THE WILLS - Sooo- Monday's are pretty routine at my house, everyone is tired ( especially a little girl I know ). I got her up, and the battle was on.. She came out of her room in a pink skirt, white shirt and BLUE Higher Heel Shoes.. I looked at her and said"Auh No". Go put on the white sandals I bought you. She says to me, I don't want to wear them, they are "around the house shoes". I say- Really ? They are brand new white sandals. Ok well I wanna wear these.. See the thing is- when her mom is around her mom likes to wear high heels and short skirts ( even to court ). So she sees it as what a girl should wear.. Once again - " Auh No " Geez what the hell am I going to do? She's only 8 !!! OOh and don't think I don't know about the "taking clothes to school in the back pack that they know damn well they cant wear scam" I know all about it.. This is going to be fun..Needless to say, I went back upstairs 10 minutes later and she had completely changed her outfit. That was fine by me : ) Ohh the next 10 years is going to be fun.. : )